Reluctant Grandma

Reluctant Grandma

Conniving Hussy

July 19th, 2008 Filed under: Deep Thoughts, Family by Grandma

So after her ass attack the day after Mother’s Day and absolutely no apology for the drama and the problems, my stepdaughter evidently desperately needed a babysitter - especially an historically FREE babysitter - and last night after we were already in bed, sound asleep, she calls hubby and puts our grandson on the phone.

“Oh Paw Paw. I miss you so much! Can I come to your house and visit?”

Of course, hubby will never say “no” to the grandson and agrees to come pick him up around lunchtime on Saturday.

My question as to why is a 5 year old up at 11:00 pm didn’t get answered.

My question as to are we keeping him overnight or just for a few hours didn’t get answered, either.

The fact that I wasn’t even consulted as to whether it was convenient for me to watch a 5 year old all day and all night was not a consideration, either. And to be honest, it wasn’t going to be convenient.

So we drive over to pick him up and he comes trotting out with a change of clothes in his hands and a deck of cards and an opened, half eaten bag of potato chips. He climbs into his car seat and buckles up - we have him well trained on that little exercise.

His mom comes over and acts all lovie to her dad and says not a word to me. So I ask her when is she going to straighten things out with me. She just stares at me for a moment and thinks it over, then drops her eyes - the obvious clue that she has no intention of making good on it. Then she snatches up the grandson and makes him go back inside the roach hole apartment they are living in and stomps off.

End of visit.

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Putting My Foot Down

May 12th, 2008 Filed under: Deep Thoughts, Family by Grandma

The household joke is that when I get mad - and it’s not that often, really - I stamp my foot. Well, I’m mad and I’ve decided to put my foot down.

My New Year’s resolution was to no longer accept being lied to. If I feel like someone is lying, I intend to confront them, then and there. I feel strongly about telling the truth and I feel strongly about avoiding confrontations. So there is the conflict in my resolution. But I feel that changing people’s behavior often requires confrontation, because some people just don’t take hints and gentle suggestions.

So, my stepdaughter is a habitual liar and I’ve had enough of that. It’s even rubbing off on my grandson. He hears the lies at home and is trying to pull the same crap here with me that his mother does. So, I’ve put my foot down on the lying and she’s chosen to not bring him over here for visits. Like THAT’s a positive parenting choice!

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Meet our GS

March 3rd, 2008 Filed under: Deep Thoughts, Family by Grandma

This whole blog thing is new to me, so forgive me if I ramble on a little too much or make so faux pauxs in the beginning. I’m just learning my way around the blogoshpere. One thing I have figured out is to not use people’s real names, so I’m trying to figure out the nicknames and vague references to where we actually live. Still thinking on that.

We keep his grandson at our house quite a bit, usually on weekends. He’s in school now, so we don’t normally have him over on school nights, but sometimes we have extra tickets to something and want to take him with us, and sometimes he just wants to sleep over, which is fine with us. They live about 10 minutes from here, and our house is on the way to her work, which is at night. So when its too much trouble for her boyfriend to watch the sleeping kid while she works, we keep him over here. He has his own Spiderman covers and collection of DVDs, and I keep a couple changes of clothes in a cupboard for him.

School is making a tremendous impact on his life, although he is having a little trouble adjusting to all the new rules and so many adults giving him directions. He has really grabbed hold of letters and words, and he is just now realizing how numbers affect our everyday lives. He is also learning songs, developing an artistic side, and doing very well in gym - especially distance running.
Enough for now - just wanted to introduce you to our current state of being.

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This Grandma Thing I Do

March 3rd, 2008 Filed under: Deep Thoughts, Family by Grandma

Being a grandma was not planned for a while yet. I’ve not had “my” time, and I had always planned on having a few years to enjoy myself between taking care of others.

I was raised in a big, blended family - before blended was so rampant everywhere else in America. Having birthed 3, married into 3 more, and having a direct influence on the raising and care for at least 6 others, I’ve had a lot of children in my life. And, don’t get me wrong, for the most part it’s been good.

With my life in a swirl of transition, a 3 year old and his mom appeared on our doorstep a few years ago. It’s been an adventure ever since.

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Hello world!

October 24th, 2007 Filed under: Uncategorized by Grandma

Welcome to WordPress. This is your first post. Edit or delete it, then start blogging!

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